This week, I broke up with my music teacher. Despite my efforts to communicate how certain behaviours were unacceptable, nothing changed. An older version of me would have gone into spiritual guru mode, trying to explain how his behaviour would negatively affect him, hoping that raising awareness would lead to change and we could all continue to have classes happily ever after.
However, I’ve been here before and learned it is not my responsibility to enlighten others unless they seek my guidance. You can’t make people see or understand something if they aren’t willing to and trying to do so only results in self-inflicted personal distress.
So, instead of trying to “fix” the situation, I accepted it. Despite a part of me saying, “it’s only a few more weeks, you don’t want to lose the consistency, just grin and bear it,” I respect my own time and energy too much to heed that voice now – more about the conditioning behind that voice later. The same day, I met another teacher and had a wonderful class, confirming that I made the right decision. Had I continued those classes, perhaps I wouldn’t have been open enough to meet the right teacher.
Sometimes it’s really hard to make these decisions because we get comfortable with familiarity and prefer the known pain over the unknown. But you have to make space for what you want in your life. Don’t be afraid to cut, clear, or push away what no longer serves you because it won’t happen by itself. When you let things you don’t want occupy your space, time, or energy, you leave no room for what you want to come in.
Now you, can you really re-stitch another hole in those dinosaur socks, or have they had their time?
Love